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My husband and I have been missionaries over thirty
years now. We’ve seen many missionaries come and go—some of them gone for good.
(Sometimes, of course, there are extenuating circumstances: sickness, needing
to care for aging parents, non-adequate financial support, obeying their
mission board, and even God leading them to a different field.) Many times,
though, the most important determinant
of success or failure on the field is the missionary wife.
Many missionary women—including single missionaries,
here—are amazingly effective partners in ministry.
Characteristics
of successful missionary women:
1. They
love God with all of their heart, soul, and being. This is
evidenced in their consistent communion with Him through prayer, Bible reading,
and Bible study. They are women of the Word.
2. They (if
married) have a happy, stable marriage and would follow
their husbands to the end of the earth—literally.
3. They
have a positive mental outlook. This means they look
for the best in the people, country, culture, and surroundings.
4. They
are willing to learn and have open minds to other ways of
thinking and doing. They are able to adapt to the culture, food, and people
around them—and actually enjoy their “different” life.
5. They desire
to befriend other women. They look for ways to build “bridges” to
the women around them—connections with the native ladies.
6. They
actually love the native people and
communicate that love.
7. They (if
married) view their ministry as a family
ministry. They are their husband’s best cheerleader and involve
the children along with Mom and Dad in reaching the lost.
8. They
are assets, examples, and helpers.
9. They find
their personal fulfillment in being part of a team (family,
ministry team, church, Christian school).
10. They
don’t view personal setbacks as fatal blows (sickness, criticisms, hiccups in the work, persecutions,
trials, etc.). They’ve learned to go to the Lord with every disappointment and
to find their joy in Him. Their private pity parties don’t last very long.
11. They
value simple pleasures: flowers, walking, sunsets, baking a
birthday cake, photography, a cup of coffee, smiles, reading a good book. They
don’t need things in order to be
happy.
12. They
have a healthy sense of humor. Laughter has a way
of lightening everything. When missionary ladies can laugh at themselves and at
their hilarious predicaments, they will survive.
13. They understand
that God’s purpose might look different for each person, and they steer away
from competing with other missionaries. Long ago, a
missionary in a successful missionary team visited our home. We were in the
kitchen, and I asked her what it was like to minister in a team. She answered,
“We recognize each other’s gifts and try to let each person fulfill the role
God designed for him.”
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Many
women feel inadequate but aren’t. They
think they need to be linguists, able to sing, teach, organize, entertain
perfectly, play the piano, and all kinds of things. But truly, the women I’ve known
who were very effective were simply women who love God and love people. Many ladies
with less than fluent language skills can very effectively reach women because
they’re real. They make the women around them feel at home, loved, and accepted.
The best missionary women are normal,
everyday people with big and loving hearts.
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What does
the Bible have to say about success?
Love God and others. And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all
thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first
commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour
as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these (Mark
12:30-31).
Think about and share the Word of God. This book of the law shall not depart out of
thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest
observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt
make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success (Joshua 1:8).
I want that kind of success! How about
you?
- Lou Ann Keiser, Basque region, Spain
Terrific list and encouragement!!! Thank you for writing this,Lois Ann.
ReplyDeleteWonderful, encouraging post! I wish every missionary wife could read this!!! There are times I don't think we wives realize how important our role is in making or breaking our husband on the field. Thank you for this great reminder!
ReplyDeleteLove love love... (Um, did I say love?) This post!
ReplyDeleteLove this! Thank you so very, very much for your wisdom. Several points made me stop and think. I needed this. Maria in Jamaica
ReplyDeleteAmen and Amen I totally agree with this post. Real women with hearts for God salted with consistency and some "stick to it-ness" are staying on the field and supporting their husbands as they work together to reach the people God has called them to!
ReplyDeleteFabulous! Could not agree more!
ReplyDeleteGREAT POST!!!! And point number 13 so needed to be said. Sadly, many ministries suffer because the "Golden Boy" philosophy is in effect and personality rules more than character. The function of the whole is about discerning character. I Cor. 12:12-26
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU for posting this!!!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading this article. Thanks for posting it. I agree completely!
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